In my previous posting, I discussed advice for adoptees who are seeking or thinking of seeking their birth families. While I might not have covered everything, I did my best. However, I reserve the right to write an addendum.
This posting offers advice for adoptive parents. As an adoptee, I fully understand that I cannot give advice from the standpoint of an adoptive parent. As a matter of fact, I would covet a response from any adoptive parent. I’m sure it is a given that this post is purely from the perspective of an adoptee (me) and is not meant in any way to usurp any opinions of adoptive parents. Continue reading
I have been interviewed by ten different radio stations and almost all of them have asked this question: “What advice do you have for adoptees who are considering a search for their biological family?” Believe it or not, this question is not terribly easy to answer.
As an adoptee with a thirty-six year history of knowing my identity and having a relationship with my biological family, I am speaking not only from experience but from a literal lifetime of knowledge of emotions that have included acceptance, identity, abuse, rejection, dismissiveness, jealousy, hatred and validation. And this is just the tip of the iceberg! Continue reading